Opposition is inevitable. Objections are a part of life. With infinite possibility of nuanced ideas and experiences, it is remarkable when there is any agreement between people.
Be careful what you put out there, and what you ask for. Are you really open to feedback or would you like to hear only praise?Only you know. Be sure to set it up so that you get what you can handle. Mastermind groups are a great way to structure constructive and positive feedback for professional development.
When sharing, we will encounter contrast in the form of misunderstanding, disagreement and criticism.
Everything happens for your benefit. (tweet) If you subscribe to this belief you will find the gift in everything. Nevertheless, to help navigate the field of contrast and contradiction, you can ask the 3 Criticism Query Questions.
- Did you do your best? If so, so be it. Be grateful you put it out there. Call forth power of grace to help you accept what is.
- Who is your audience? Does the critic fit into your core audience? Not everyone will get your message nor should they. When sharing my work with my dad, for example, I preface it with something like, “You are not my target audience. I do not expect you to like it or get it. I’m sharing my work with you to include you. Please only share your positive comments with me.”
- Is there anything useful in the criticism? It doesn’t have to be 100%. There could be 5% of value in a critical remark that can be useful for your development. If so, take it and use it.
In marketing there is a truth: 10% will hate you (your work) no matter what, 10% will love it (you) so it is the other 80% you should focus on and try to reach.
If no one dislikes what you’re doing, then not enough people have seen it. Getting criticism means your audience is big enough. There is a critical mass exposed to your work. Congratulations!